The Real Reason you have not achieved your fitness goal!

If you not yet achieved the body of your dreams, the reason is simple, you have not yet pushed through “THE DIP”! Now this can have one of two meanings:

  1. You are currently in the dip and it is only a matter of time before you push through and become a sexy beast. Or,
  2. Every time you find yourself in the DIP, you QUIT!!!

If you have been working out consistently for at least 3-to-6 month you are most likely in a dip. The dip as you will soon learn is a necessary part of the process. So don’t worry how you ended up in the dip and instead ask yourself,

“Am I going to rise-up and push through the dip, or am I going to quit and (once again) fade into the background of life? 

Unfortunately way too many people give up once the going gets tough…

Thomas Edison quote, The Dip

Here’s the all too common scenario —You decide that today is the first day of the rest of your life! You’re going to stop making excuses and you’re finally going to get in shape. So you do your research and find a great gym with amazing trainers and finally begin this journey of self-improvement. At first, it’s way better than expected, you are having FUN, meeting lots of amazing people, and for the first time in a long time you are making PROGRESS! But then, out of nowhere, a big dose of reality punches you in the face, suddenly ending this fitness honeymoon causing you to tumble down into the DIP!

What is THE DIP?

The dip is the universal truth that nothing in this world worth having comes easy. The dip comes in many forms such as injuries, kidsmoney, an unpredictable schedule, or perceived lack of time. While those obstacles maybe obvious one of the most underrated is the lack of ambition for doing more than the just the bare minimum. Fitness is about self discovery and mastery of the physical world and the dip requires you to do more than just show up to the gym. 

The dip, Fitness, Kettlebells

The dip is the part of the journey where you transition from a beginner to a master. This transition requires you to get a deeper understanding of your path. This could mean improvement of your technique, balance, rhythm, timing, coordination, flexibility, body awareness, strength, or work capacity. The problem here is that the improvement of these aspects is HARD, it takes a lot of time and effort. However, they aspects won’t fix themselves so you must make a concentrated effort to improve or you will never progress. Sadly, for many people the decision to quit and find a new gym and a new trainer looks like a better option then battling these obstacles. 

There is good news, the DIP is what makes your accomplishment special. As the old saying goes; if it was easy everybody would do it, so the dip acts like a filter that weeds out all the pretenders, naysayers and wannabes. So the next time you find yourself at the bottom of a DIP, realize that the only path to success is through the dip, not around it. Quitting, joining a new gym, or looking for another trainer is not going to solve the issue. The “issue” lies within… So “bite down on your mouth piece and start swinging” because getting through the dip will be one of the biggest fights of your life. However if you emerge victorious you will be forever changed!!!

This blog was inspired by the book THE DIP  by Seth Godin which I highly recommend you read!


I Suffer From Fitness Onism

Have you ever had the realization that you just can’t do it all?

The world is a HUGE place filled with LOTS of people you will never meet, cultures you will never understand, romances that will never happen, languages you will never speak, Countries you will never visit, jobs you will never have, books you will never read, musical instruments you will never learn, and hobbies you will never master (and the list goes on and on and on).

Healthy Life Experiment

Over the years I have also made this realization about the fitness world. I am interested in Kickboxing, Kettlebells, Bodyweight Plyometrics, Jiu-Jitsu, Power Lifting, Olympic Lifting, Yoga, Animal Flow, Parkour, Triathlons, Gymnastics, MovNat and Bodybuilding. If you just took one of those “systems” listed above it could take several years going 5 times a week just to, have a decent understanding let alone make any significant progress.

So how then do I get really good at all these things? The truth is I probably can’t especially once you consider that I also have two business to run, a new puppy to attend to, blogs to write, family commitments, a social life, and many other non-fitness related hobbies that I am also interested in learning about. I am not of fan of using the word IMPOSSIBLE but sadly, it is impossible to do everything (at least in this lifetime)…

It turns out I am not the only one that feels this way, in fact there is even a word to describe this feeling. The word is ONISM.

Onism – n. the awareness of how little of the world you’ll experience. 

There is even an amazing video about this “feeling”. Check it out (it is less than 3-mins long)


My favorite line from this video is:

“All the billions of doors you had to close in order to take a single step forward”.

So what does this all mean?

Is Onism a good thing or a bad thing? Is this knowledge supposed to depress us or make us feel better? Most people might find the idea of Onism depressing, but I think it is quite the opposite. The knowledge that we can’t do it all gives us a reason to “slow down” and focus on the moment. Remember we can only inhabit one body in just one place at one time. So instead of always worrying or wondering if the grass is greener somewhere else, just focus on making your current “patch of grass” greener. Lastly,  it is a great reminder to focus on the little things opposed to overwhelming our lives with the uncontrollable.


How to use Onism to improve your life.

The solution is actually quite simple, but just because it is simple does not mean it will be easy.

The solution in 3 steps:

  1. Discover what makes you happy – This is critical!
  2. Trim the Fat – In other words remove all the non-essential out of your life. A Great Book Title “The Dip” by Seth Godin talks about how quitting can actually be a good thing. Now this is not an excuse to quit everything, instead, this book challenges you to analyze why you are doing what it is you are doing. If you can’t find any good reasons why you are doing this particular thing maybe you should quit. Because once you remove the non-essential from your life, you immediately free-up more time for the things that you are passionate about!
  3. Do the things that make you happy as much as possible! – A wise man once said; “It should either make you money or it should make you happy“.

onism blog, fitness


Onism teaches us that; in order to be truly happy we need to live in the moment and focus on the now! More specifically, we need to be aware of how we are spending our time. Our time should be spent (as much as possible) focusing only on the things we truly love while simultaneously removing the things we are less passionate about. If we are successful in doing this, we will have more time to spend doing the things we love. But please understand that by opening a particular “door” that makes you happy, you are also closing a billion other doors, but that’s OK! Because a successful life is not about concerning ourself with all the things we are missing out on (FOMO) it’s about focusing on what makes us happy NOW!